Ladies and gentlemen, boys and girls and everybody else. I know that you have all read a hundred and one plus one articles on what you must do and not do when your on a date. So why not read another ! I am sure many of you must be PhDs in this but there is always scope for improvement right? Alrighty then, let me tell you that of course I cant include everything in this article, but then I will try to put in pointers which I personally feel would be good. Read on

• The date that you plan should be flexible. As a guy make sure if you plan the date, give the girl the choice of time, place, food etc. it is always safe to have choices cause you never know what the girl might like or not.

*   Set the time limit for the date in advance just to avoid the stress to end the date or even for the situation where you might want to end it and run away !

• Recently an advertisement whch came out assured me with all earnesty that today I am judged by my clothes. Though I beg to differ, even then for a date I would say one must dress appropriately. No sweatshirts and kinds please. The date should feel that you did put some effort into it.

*   For the gentlemen I would like to start with DO NOT GET LATE ! Many ladies on the contrary believe that it’s their prerogative to be late. Well that’s okay, but it’s an absolute no no for a guy. Be on time. You may feel it’s better to be a few minutes late so you don’t feel silly waiting for your date, but that just means your date will be waiting for you. Treat your date nice by showing him or her the respect they deserve. Plan ahead, leave early, and account for any possible delays in traffic. Once more just to make sure you got it – Do be on time

• Be confident of yourself. Make sure to make eye contact with your date, of course you can choose not too if the date gives you reasons too ! ask any psychologist, keeping an eye contact with a person is good because the person feels that you are giving him/her attention.

*   For the guys, even if your date looks like a toad from the city sewage, please don’t look at other women’s assets(discreetly, go ahead!!). you wouldn’t want the date noticing you ogling at others.  

• Now that you are on the date remember that its all about you and the girl/boy. All other things are disturbances unless of course you want it 2 be there !! That little wonder of science we call cell phone must not find its way to your ear as long as your with your date. I mean try to avoid it, especially on a first date. It’s plain rude to the person your with if you make your cell phone your body part. If it’s a call that needs to be attended to, the best thing to do is to put it voicemail.

• So that cell phone ain’t  disturbing no one at the moment. Buddy you have no choice but to talk to the person. One must follow the good old advice that conversation must be a 50-50 % affair between two people. Don’t monopolize the conversation. Ask questions to give your date a chance to talk so you can both find out about each other. While you are trying to get to know your date, you aren’t there to drill them for every detail of their life.

• During the conversation ask meaningful and appropriate questions. Definitely lets all endeavor to keep the exes out of the equation please. If it’s the first date also keep in mind that it should be like auditioning for the future. So maybe one should run through what you might like to talk about before the date.

• Now here is a point which for some of you would be debatable. When you are in conversation do not start boasting about yourself. No matter how much it pleases ones years its not good. Last thing you want is the person to think that you are a pompous a**.

• Do be a good listener. When on the date give your date chances to speak their mind. It serves a lot of purposes. You get to know what kind of a person your date is, you get to understand what ticks the person and most importantly you know his intentions in a relationship.

• Do be nice. Let there be positivity from your side. Compliment him/her on the clothes or anything which u liked. It also shows your date that you’re taking notice of him and you appreciate him.

• Don’t try to pretend to be someone other than yourself. If you’re a meat eating carnivore and she a vegan (god I hate it), make sure that she comes to know. Same goes for the smoking and drinking.

*   While eating make sure that you are eating like a human being and not like you would eat like a cow, chewing with your mouth open. Maintain basic etiquettes.

• If in a restaurant, make sure you don’t drink excessively. Hold that drink till you reach home and drink to glory if the date went bad!!!!

• Lets assume that your date is going bad because of the other person. Please don’t make it clear to the person unless he actually deserves it being told to him. Diplomacy is indeed a virtue you would like to adopt here, unless you have reasons to otherwise.

*   This might sound same as the above but read it out. Do not complain - This   may be technically part of tip three, but it deserves a separate heading. This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t tell him that something is wrong or something makes you uncomfortable. The way you phrase it and the tone you use is important here. ‘Venting’, like we do with our girl friends, is not going to go over well with him since he’ll probably misinterpret it. Grin and bear it then tell him after the date in calm, reasoned tones your problem. Trust me, he’ll understand and he’ll try to make it up to you.

* So the dates over and those awkward moments come when your not decided on what to do. My suggestion is to make it very clear whether you would like to do it again or not. Never keep your date hanging.

* Okay this point may not be technically part of the article but still I think it needs to be written. If you liked the girl/guy and you would like to go out again, I would say to wait for a couple of days. If the call never comes, maybe its because  the guy is tongue tied. Give the call and talk about how good the date went. I am sure if the guy is interested he would ask you for another.

• Last but not the least do enjoy the date. Its after all just a date not a betrothal. Relax and have fun, don’t be hyper critical. Show the date the real side of you. Is the person likes you so be it, if not so be it again. If you enjoy the date the guy/gal would indeed notice and also if you don’t enjoy.